Bucket List

So we all have our bucket lists. I will probably add onto this as time goes on, but this is my list as it stands today :) What are some things on your bucket list??

·       Read the Bible (I've read Matthew, Jobs, and Isaiah, but I want to read it in order)

·       Read War and Peace

·       Read the top 100 books of all time (I'll post later what the top 100 is and label which ones I've already read. Although, knowing me, I'll probably read them again. :) )

·       Meet/hug Jensen Ackles (Supernatural, My Bloody Valentine, Ten Inch Hero, Smallville, Dawson's Creek, Days of Our Lives)

·       Meet/hug Henry Cavill (Man of Steel, Immortals, The Tudors)

·       Meet/hug Kaitlyn (former WWE Diva)

·       Meet/hug Jennifer Nettles (singer in Sugarland)

·       Meet/hug Matt Damon (We Bought A Zoo, Invictus, the Bourne Trilogy, The Good Shepard, The Departed, The Talented Mr. Ripley, Good Will Hunting)

·       Learn to surf

·       Learn to snowboard

·       Learn to scuba dive

·       Visit Ireland

·       Visit England

·       Visit Greece

·       Visit Scotland

·       Visit every US state (I've marked off the states I have already visited)

·       Publish a book

·       Publish a photography project

·       Kiss in the pouring rain

·       Messy Twister (paint on spots, play like regular twister)

·       Hit a home run

·       Own a 1965 Mustang

·       Drive any Mustang

·       Take a clear picture of the Orion

·       Spend the night in a haunted place

·       Fill a truck bed with pillows and blankets and sleep under the stars

·       Sleep on a trampoline

·       Ride in a helicopter

·       See the Northern Lights

·       Learn sign language

·       Get BFF tattoo

·       Try Spaghetti tacos

·       Wallpaper a room with pictures of family, friends, animals, etc.

·       Start and finish an Harry Potter movie marathon

Jess and my rocks

Normally, I can't write without music, so if this rambles, sorry.

I feel like I have to put this out there, but I'm not sure why. I know that some feel as though as I have not moved on yet from Alix and therefore, getting into another relationship too soon. I wish I could put the full story out there, but I can't. Some things need to stay private, because it's not anyone's business but mine and Alix's. That being said, I haven't moved too quickly. If you knew the full story, you would understand. Jessica knows that story and we are still taking it slow, as it should be with any relationship. But this I can say. I have been so depressed for so long. I have been pulling for myself for so long. It wasn't until these last six months that I have had to be accountable to not just myself but for others. Danielle and Cody, because they are the closest, distance wise, they do their best friend duties in making sure that I stay emotionally and physically stable. Stephanie has always been a part of my support system, we all know this. Brittney and Heidi have recently come back into my life after bullshit drama on both ends and are also a part of my support system. Then there is my family. Honestly, without all of these people in my life, I can honestly say that I would not be here today, typing this up. But this is where Jessica comes in. We are all humans. We all yearn for love and touch. It's only natural. I love my friends and family, but this is something that they can try to provide, but it's a different type of love that they just can't. For so long, I had this void in my heart. I felt unworthy and undeserving of such a love in my life. It was and is the depression talking, because I still feel so unworthy and undeserving to have the love that I get from Jessica. But I'm used to being told no. I'm used to bottling up emotions, because I wasn't allowed to show them before. I'm not used to having a choice or say in things. In short, I'm not used to being independent. I'm used to being dependent and being told what to do, without protesting it. Jessica is, unknowingly I'm sure, teaching me that I do matter. That I can be independent. That my opinion matters. That I, in fact, have every right to say no, and not suffer the consequences. I know we haven't know her for long, but I feel as though I can talk to her about anything, including Alix. Most girlfriends shut down when you talk about the exes, but she sits there and she listens. She comforts. And most of all, she shows me that I do truly matter. Yes, my friends do the same, but she understands in a way that the others can't. I can't tell without sharing her personal history how she understands the way they can't, and I won't do that without her permission. I know that recovery from depression is a long journey. I am so grateful to my friends who have stayed and are standing by me in this fight. I can say that things are looking up, and I am happier than I have been in so long. Jessica is a big part of this. The others I talked to after Alix and before Jessica, I was straight up with them. I wasn't going to get into a relationship without telling them what they could be getting into. I'm not wasting my time or theirs. And naturally, like I had expected, they ran. I liked Jessica for awhile before we started even talking, but I was too wound up in other things to realize it. I told Jessica before we made it official. Not all the details, but that I was suffering from depression and that I had roller coaster days. I honestly expected her to run, to be like the others. I didn't know her that well at the time, but I obviously didn't give her enough credit. Instead of running, she took my hand and smiled at me. Instead of running, she stands beside me as my rock in this fight. All my friends and family are my rocks in this fight. Without them and Jess, I'm alone and lost in the darkness. Actions speak so much louder than words. As I love to put it, Love is Action. All their actions tell me, they are in it for the long haul. And for that, I'm so eternally grateful for that.

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I seriously never know how to name these posts, mostly because they are ramblings of a college student. Hence the title of the blog! But seriously, if someone out there has a method of naming these posts, tell me!

I don't want to go into complete detail, but the ship of Alix and I has sailed and pretty much sunk. It's an unfortunate thing and I wish it could be different sometimes, but it is what it is, ya know? Simply put, actions speak louder than words. That seems to the theme of my summer... Which is okay with me! Because of this motto, I'm learning who really means what they say and how much they mean to me and how much I mean to them ( I swear this makes sense to me!)

I've come to realize so many things, which is why I am in a new relationship that I'm comfortable being in. I know that those on the outside of the situation and don't know the full story, it can be seen as moving too fast, or jumping into a rebound. And I totally get it, but if you knew the full story, you would see it differently. Love is complicated. Always has been, always will be. How I met Jessica is to be debated. SHE says that I made a mean face at her when we first met, so she thought I disliked her (why does everyone think I hate them????) I, on the other hand, don't think I did, but I digress. Before we really started texting, I know I couldn't get her out of my head for like 4 days. Finally, I asked Robin, her best friend and fellow coworker, if she was seeing anyone. She told me she wasn't. So I facebooked messaged Jessica, giving her my number and telling her she text me sometime. I had no idea it would be within the hour that she would actually text me! And it's been nonstop since then. On September 21st, we made it official. I find myself truly happier than I have been in quite some time. And that's the truth! I've figured out that denying something for the sake of someone else, never ends well.

I've moved in with Danielle, mostly because I was spending all my time there anyways for work. i have my own bedroom but I usually sleep upstairs with Danielle. It's been a blast!

Work is well, work. It's McDonald's. We're all crazy...in a good way... :)

Update

I know it's been awhile. I'm not really sure where to even start. So much has happened since I last posted. So I guess it'll be random thoughts til I'm satisfied.

Work:
I finally got a job. I currently work at the McDonald's by the theater in Carrollton and I love it. Well, I love the people I work with and some of our nice regulars. Our mean regulars...not so much. I will say that the one good thing that has come out of this job is that I have found my best friend, Danielle. Sure, it took us awhile to actually become best friends, but  now that we are, we are practically inseparable. We started talking once we were having problems with our significant others (more on that later) and from there, it's expanded into a beautiful bond that I consider to be rare these days. I honestly which I had posted back when I first started some of the crazy stories that I have experienced while working here. I'm sure I could get a book deal out of this. It's crazy, but I'll try to keep you updated on the craziness from here on out.

Personal life:
I've been depressed for a while. I just refused to accept that I was. Mostly out of not wanting to seem weak. I wanted to seem like nothing could get to me and that I was okay. But I wasn't. I was losing my appetite and I was slowly losing my passion for photography. Once I realized that was happening, I knew I was in trouble. But I still didn't do anything about it. I just put a smile on my face and pushed it deep inside me. Well, one night, it backfired on me. I was ready to end it all in my tub of mine and Alix's apartment. The only that stopped was the fact that I didn't want Alix to be the one to find me. Needless to say, I have gotten help. I'm talking to someone weekly and I'm on Effexor and it seems to be giving the motivation I need to get my life back on track, especially now that I'm now single (again, more on that later). My therapist is awesome and she has a pretty good memory. Before this had all happened, I had considered therapy, simply to have someone to talk to, because everyone always came to me to be a shoulder to cry on and to lend a sympathetic ear, but it felt like when I needed them, they weren't there (these people are no longer in my life). I can just talk and talk and she helps me figure things out and doesn't judge me. It's quite nice and I do wish I had started doing it earlier. Maybe I wouldn't be in this particular situation if I had. But hey, hindsight is 20/20, right?

Love life and living situation:
These two are unfortunately related. Alix and I broke up May 24. I won't go into full detail because that's not fair to Alix. Let's say that it was coming for a few months prior, and I hadn't accepted that fully. Also, actions speak louder than words and the actions of Alix told me that she wanted to be single for a while. I knew she wouldn't tell me that because she didn't want to hurt my feelings. However, I realized it's not fair to either of us to be in a relationship that isn't equal. Thus, the breakup. Don't get me wrong. We are still friends and I still love her as I always have. I just hope that once we get our lives back on track, that we can resume our relationship. At first, I didn't think that was what I wanted but, now I know, due to the experiences of the last month and a half. For starters, I had a crush on Danielle, but in the long run, Danielle and I decided it's better to be friends than lovers. I know her enough to know that if we had dated and then we broke up, that would be the end of that friendship, and I value that more than anything right now. Then there was Erecca. Lawd. I really thought I had something going with her. We talked nonstop for two weeks. I visited her at work. We went on a date and we kissed. Rather, we made out. It was great. Or so I thought. One night after a hellish night at work, I had a text from her basically saying that she wasn't feeling the same way towards me as I did towards her. Which really sucked. Like it hurt major. It still hurts, but now it's the idea of being rejected yet again. However, it's because of this, that I know it won't work with anyone but Alix. I still see my future with her, just as I have these last 3 and a half years. I mean 3 and a half years, that gotta mean something right? Our lease was up at the end of June and we decided to move on. Alix moved in with her friend and I moved back home. It's not that I hate living at home, it's the constant driving. And honestly, who wants to say that they had to move back home? I love my parents and I am grateful to them more than they can know for allowing me to move back into my old bedroom but I don't want to live here much longer. Danielle and I are more determined than ever to get a place together and I couldn't be more excited about it.

Danielle:
She's been there for me these last few months and vice versa. The bond we share is something that I believe is hard to find these days. I cherish it immensely. I do remember the first day I started working there. Danielle and Cody both came up to me and said HI!, hugged me and ran off. I knew I would love my job right then and there. And granted, Danielle and I didn't really become friends til a few months later, it feels like we've been best friends forever. And I love it. I never thought I would find something that I have with Stephanie with anyone else, but I did. I consider myself to be a lucky girl. Right now, we're going through almost the same thing and it helps that we can each other's sounding board. The best part? We don't hold back. If we think something the other is doing, is a stupid idea or just wouldn't work, we tell them that. I would rather know what she really thinks, not what I want to hear. Because we know life doesn't work like that. I love this girl more than she probably understands right now, haha but I definitely can't wait to see what  the future holds for our friendship.

Cody:
Cody is another best friend. He's like my big little brother. He may be taller but not older than me. He's also my sounding board as I am his. He's the one who introduced me to the Butterfly Project to help me stop cutting. Cody is a loving person whom I know I wouldn't have gotten through these last few months. He's also stopped me from doing a few stupid things too haha

Well as of right now, this is all that I can think to update on.

The End of Binaural Beats Experience

All the research and everything that I have read about binaural beats seem to be completely on par. I feel so much better now that I am sleeping more soundly. I know that I am making better decisions because I am not procrastinating as much as before. I have done pretty well with sticking to my nighttime routine. There were a few nights where I had gotten home from work and was just too tired to do anything. I think that this related to the fact that my body isn't used to sleeping as much as I have been and it is still adjusting to being able to stay asleep. It is quite nice. I have more energy throughout the day to do things that I need to do as well as doing the things that I enjoy doing. Before, I was just dragging my feet and not really trying to do a really good job, I was more focused on getting the job done and not worrying about the quality of it. It has really helped me in schoolwork along with my job. I am nicer and friendlier to people and instead of just getting it done; I worry more about the quality of things and take my time to get it done right. 

The Effects of Binaural Beats on Health and Wellbeing

Binaural beats have many uses for them, as I have previously outlined. My intended use is to help me sleep at night and stay asleep. Everyone knows that an adequate amount of sleep equals better health. Better health can include anything from less stress to better blood pressure. Better sleep can lead to better decision making, as noted in the article titled, ‘If You Snooze, You Don’t Lose.’ in Money magazine, “Contemplating a big purchase or investing decision? Not only does lack of adequate sleep impair decision-making, but neuroscientists at Duke University recently found that sleep deprivation changes the way your brain assesses economic value, making you more likely to take risks.” (Mangla, 2012). The same article says to “create a sleep routine.” (Mangla, 2012). The routine that I have created is that I get my stuff ready for the next day, clothes, school stuff, work stuff, etc. Then I get my clothes out that I am wearing for the night. Then I take a hot shower, because “when your temperature falls afterward, your body releases the sleep-inducing hormone melatonin.” (Mangla, 2012). This way, my body is already getting ready for sleep, then I get into bed and turn the app on and within the next thirty minutes or so, I am soundly asleep. And the best part of it is that the sound keeps going all night or as long as my battery permits it to, so I stay asleep. And more importantly, I never go to bed less than 8 hours before. What I mean by this is that I get into bed at least eight hours before I am supposed to wake up. This gives me an hour or so to get situated or get to relaxing. The common thing is that we ALL need eight hours of sleep. This is the recommended amount, however, everyone is different. I only need seven hours to function at my fullest capacity.

Citations

Mangla, I. S. (2012, April). If You Snooze, You Don't Lose. Money, pp. 51-52.

My Overall Experience of Using Relaxing Melodies or Binaural Beats

http://youtu.be/ufWmD2RYkPM

The link above is a promo video for the Relaxing Melodies. This is just to provide a little more information about the app itself.

I have never felt so good in the morning. It’s really hard to pay attention to how your body feels when you are falling asleep fast. I believe in the last entry, I had mentioned somewhere that immediate details of the outside world become less and less significant. This is so true! I was trying to pay attention to how I felt, physically and emotionally, along with thinking about other things, such as what I had to do today, and then it got to where I was just focusing on the sound and then before I knew it, I was waking up the next day. I have to admit that at first, I wasn't so sure about the whole binaural thing. I personally like variety and spontaneity and I thought there was no way that a ‘monotonous’ tone would lull me to sleep. But it did. Whether it will actually be easy or not, is of no concern. Some concerns I do have are more with the device I use rather than the binaural beats. I know I mentioned that certain wavelengths have a drug like effect and that some people become ‘hooked’ on it, but I haven’t felt that, at least not yet and I have been using this for a good two months now. When I first started using this, it was working instantly. That first morning after using it, I felt so much better already. I could feel that things had change within me. I felt better, not so tensed, and relaxed! Now, after two months of using this at least every other night, I feel significantly different. I am not as angry any more. I don't feel like everything is hopeless as soon as it doesn't go the way I want it to. I feel as though things are easier to accomplish because I am more clear-headed since I don't get angry so easily. It is really as though a huge burden has been lifted off my chest, much like how it feels after the end of a school semester. But having this happen before the end of the semester, it is so much better for my health. Because I am not so stressed out and easily angered all the time, my immune system is stronger and I don't get sick as often as I used to. I think it is safe to say that I will be continuing to use this in one shape or form, for a very long time to come.

Binaural Beats and Insomina

I have had trouble sleeping lately. I say lately, but I really mean my whole life. You can ask my parents! have tried EVERYTHING to help me sleep and stay asleep. I have tried it all, from prescribed medications to over the counter medications to home remedies. It all works at first, but then my body becomes accustomed to it, then my body requires more and more amounts, which is not something that I can do a lot. I don't mind taking the medications, but I mind taking a lot of different ones, or a lot of the same one to get the same effects of just one. Plus, that is stuff that doesn't naturally belong in the body and it can affect you in the long way. What I am trying to say, is that I have always been trying to find a solution that works that wouldn't involve taking medications. I never really could find the solution. That all began to change when I started taking Psychology of Mind and Body. When I first signed up, I only did so to fulfill psychology degree requirements, but I believe deep down, unconsciously I chose this class, because it would lead me to the answer I have been looking for for a long time. And it has. What has started out as a class project/assignment, has ended up being the closest thing to a solution as I have ever come to. Are you ready for this? Binaural beats! You are probably thinking what? But I am thinking YES! 

So, what are binaural beats? According to Dictionary.com, the first definition for 'binaural' is having two ears, and of sound, means that 'recorded through two separate microphones and transmitted through two separate channels to produce a stereophonic effect.' The best way to hear this stereophonic effect is through the use of headphones. To further explain this, "a binaural beat frequency is an audio phenomenon that occurs in the brain when two slightly different sine waves are delivers to each ear through headphones." (Gelb & Howell, 2012). Sine waves are "a continuous wave with a constant frequency and amplitude." (Gelb & Howell, 2012). This best way to fully understand is this, "the two hemispheres of the brain function together to "hear" not the external sound signals but instead a third "phantom" beat." (Gelb & Howell, 2012).

What are binaural beats used for? Peter Grainger of Positive Health magazine outlines it for us in the following:

·         Gamma: 22-30Hz (hertz)

o   Attention or sensory stimulation, perception, or consciousness

·         Beta: 12-22Hz

o   Associated with high state of wakefulness, high state of arousal and some drug effects

·         Alpha: 8-12Hz

o   Allows brain to enter energy conservation mode

o   Immediate detail of the outer world becomes less and less significant

o   Important function as connection between conscious and subconscious

o   Allows for recollection of dreams, the remembrance of events in meditation, the recall of a creative synthesis of a solution of a daily problem, and the creation of healing images to assist the body to repair and recover from injury

o   High levels of success in sports and performing arts

·         Theta: 4-8Hz

o   Full memory search/verbal performance, scanning for pleasure, quiet focus/extroversion/low anxiety, low neuroticism

o   Closely related to sleep function and to the necessary restoration g he body

o   Actively repairing damage done while awake

o   Essential to immune system and other systems concerned with growth and duplication

o   Autonomic nervous system is restored and rebalanced

·         Delta: 0.5-4Hz

o   Brain is scanning for internal associations, altering internal and external consciousness

o   Essential to daily function of the body and to regulate all aspect of physiology

o   High amplitude related to the ability to empathize with other human beings

For this project, I am interested in delta and theta waves the most. So how does one go about accessing binaural beats? Internet mostly, or sleep machine apps. I wasn't sure myself really on where to start. I started researching and I ended up at this link: http://www.ellecanada.com/living/night-owl-how-to-get-your-beauty-sleep/a/35181/2

It’s here that the author, Alannah O’Neill, mentions different ways to try. The three options are binaural beats, mind control, yoga nidra. Since I was already interested in the binaural beats, that is the direction I chose. I have an iPhone, so I set out to get the app she had said that she downloaded, but it was $2.99. Personally, I don't like to buy apps unless I try them out because most of the time, I wouldn't get a refund. However, iTunes gave me suggestions that were close to it and were free. This is when I found the app, Relax Melodies. This free app had about 18 sounds and then the binaural beats at the alpha and theta level. After testing it for several days, I bought the full app which included the six binaural beats and over 90 sounds.

The description for each level is as follows from the app itself:

·         Concentration

o   Beta: 20Hz

§  The Beta wave can be used for active concentration. If you are awake and have a difficult problem to solve or need to stay focused, this could be the solution.

·         Relaxation

o   Mid Alpha: 10Hz

§  The Mid Alpha wave helps you to start relaxing when you are in an active state. You can still stay awake, but you will feel your mind becoming more relaxed.

·         Pre-Sleep

o   Low Alpha: 8Hz

§  The Low Alpha wave reproduces the pre-sleep and the pre-wake frequency of your brain. This sound prepares you to enter slowly or get out of smoothly of your sleep.

·         Deep Meditation

o   Mid Theta: 5Hz

§  The Mid Theta wave enables you to go into deep state of mediation. It will facilitate the transition between sleep and wakefulness.

·         Dreams

o   Low Theta: 4Hz

§  The Low Theta guides your brain to the dream stage. You will be able to reach more easily this important stage of sleep.

·         Dreamless Sleep

o   Delta: 2.5Hz

§  The Delta is the lowest frequency of the binaural sounds. This sound makes you enter more easily in the deepest and most important portion of your sleep cycle

These next several entries will cover my personal experiences of using this app and how having done this, how it affects all other aspects of my life, waking and sleeping.

Citations

Gelb, M. J., & Howell, K. (2012, Mar/April). Synchronize Your Brain. Share Guide, pp. 18-19.

Grainger, P. (2009, December). Brain Waves and Altered States of Consciousness. Positive Health, pp. 1-1.

O'Neill, A. (n.d.). Retrieved from Elle Canda: http://www.ellecanada.com/living/night-owl-how-to-get-your-beauty-sleep/a/35181/2

Picture credits:

http://www.flashkit.com/loops/Ambient/Ambient/Gamma-Neil_War-3443/index.php

http://brain-tricks.brainfunctionz.com/brain-waves/

New...everything

GAH! This is the first time I've been back since they changed everything around and it makes my computer all slow and stuff. I don't like.

Anyways, I've been watching the Vampire Diaries and I got all caught up but season 4 had already started so, I'm not caught up anymore. and now I've got Alix hooked on it so now I'm re-watching it. It's funny what I have already forgotten about the first two seasons. BUT this not the reason for this post. In the beginning of the show, they showed the two main characters writing in their journals and it got me thinking. In this high tech world, it has gotten so impersonal and I'm not sure I like it. I don't think I have deep and meaningful things to say like Elena and Stefan do, but I have stuff to say that is deep and meaningful to me.

What I'm trying to say is that I think I am going to go back to using an actual journal. I'm 23 years old and when I die, I want to have a ton of journals that describe my life. All of it. The good and the bad. The accomplishments and the struggles. I'm still gonna keep this up for purposes of talking things through, I guess. Like my homosexuality is a choice? post and the like, but no more personal things. I know I have a few posts in the future soon because of blog entries I have to do for a class, but I can't guarantee any soon there after.

June

I have one more week of being totally bored out of my mind. Starting June 11th (coincidentally also my mother and grandmother's birthday), I get to do this fabulous thing called Perspectives Camp. Yep, it's that time of the year! This will be my second year and I'm pretty excited and pretty nervous. Mostly nervous because Margaret is not around this time. She was deployed in March to Afghanistan for a year and someone whom I have never met, is leading it this year. This is also the first year we are doing guys along with the girls. Then after that on the 23rd, I will be heading to Florida for the week with the girls of Alix's family. I say all this because I have had a lot on my mind and I know that it is now or never to talk it out.

Today has been a good day and bad day. Good because Aimee is talking. For those who don't know, Aimee Copeland is a fellow Psychology student at University of West Georgia who got in a zip-lining accident in someone's backyard. She's developed the rare flesh eating bacteria. From what I remember, she's had one leg and both hands amputated. During this time, Aimee has had a machine helping her breath and she hasn't been able to really talk. Well today, Aimee talked. So to me, that means she doesn't have the ventilator breathing for her. It's been a sad day because a really good friend of mine's mom passed away after a long and hard fight. I'm grateful that her mom is finally at peace but I never like seeing my friends in pain. But all in all, it has given me quite a lot to think about. I'm sure I have said before that life is short. But I'm gonna say it again, because it is so true. 

I have not really lost friends but we've let our differences and stubbornness get in the way of our friendship. I'm the kind of person that just lets people go if they don't want to be a part of my life, but there are two friends that I can't seem to do just that. With one, we've been friends since I was in 2nd grade. Our parents are best friends. When I was in high school and she was still in middle school, I used to think the only reasons we were still friends was because our parents were. Then as I got close to graduating, we got closer again. I'm not really sure where it all went wrong from there, but I know I've made mistakes that I can't take back and there were things she didn't understand and I think she does now. But we haven't been able to sit down and talk every thing out. For once in our lives, we can't ignore the problem. There was one night that I thought that I was gonna get that chance and then a friend of hers came to the house and I'm polite. I'm not gonna leave him alone with both of our crazy families. And I'm pretty sure we would need a mediator eventually. All that said, I do value our friendship and I wish we could get back to at least being on the same page. But we're both stubborn and I feel that may not happen for awhile.

The other friend. We met at CCF one Thursday and we were instant friends. I don't know what drew us to one another but whatever it was, it was good. Because of her, I felt able to be myself around her. This was right around the time I was beginning to embrace my sexuality. She allowed to explore those feelings and be my support when I needed her. And eventually, she told that she thought she was gay too (which she was). Our friendship has been to hell and back and back to hell and back. I was there for her through a rough relationship, even if it strained ours and the same to her. We let two of our guy friends (now ex friends) drive us apart. And despite all that, we came back to being friends again. A part of me feels like I want to prove those two guys wrong and say you cant ruin us. But I really can't say what went wrong here. I feel a lack of communication on both of our parts. We both screwed up and neither wants to say sorry. Unfortunately, she lives an hour away now and while I'm in that town often, it's never long enough to pay a friendly visit. More often than not, it's a stop on the way to Lake Harding, or it's a babysitting job. 

I'm saying all this because while I do have friends, they really aren't the kind that I would invite over to  my house. Some I would go hang out with them but that's it. I found a lot of friends through CCF and I don't go there anymore because they are completely screwed up (another post for another time), especially since Adam is now gone. I think I want to set the goal of making new friends in the coming semester. I'm gonna have to try to sit away from my captioners and just talk to people. I know I'm shy when it comes to that kind of thing. But honestly, if I want to be a school counselor or even have my own practice, I'm gonna have to get over that sooner or later, and I would rather it be sooner. 

And as for those two guy friends, well....they can suck it. I don't miss them.